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-Waiting Instruction…Boys!

Posted by Scott on October 15, 2007

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“In 1800, President Thomas Jefferson commissioned a national survey conducted by Dupont de Numours to determine the status of literacy in America.  The results were phenomenal.  Better than ninety-seven percent of American citizens could read and write.  The stated reason for this success was  that, from Boston to Atlanta, American fathers practiced daily Bible reading with their children around the breakfast table.  Long before the creation of government schools (public schools) or the National Education Association, faithful fathers proved that the simple act of teaching the Holy Scriptures to their children at home would lead our nation to become the most literate in the world.”   

-Quote by Doug Phillips, Esq. publisher taken from the book

“The Bible Lessons of John Quincy Adams for His Sons”

The title “Awaiting Instruction…Boys!” is not a story with a twist.  Guys, it is reality.  Our boys are waiting for their dads instruction on life.  They want to know how to be a real man.  They really want to know our imput on dating,  girls, bullies, sports, God, the Bible, making money, working, pain, family, friends, our boyhood, family history, who we admire, our heroes, places we have been, and so on.  The boys are starving to have the proper instructions on what we call “life”.  Of course they may not react as though they care, but inside they are spell bound to every word.  For one, it is a conversation with dad which in most homes that is rare these days.  Most importantly, we need to help fill their minds and hearts with God’s truth.  If we can do nothing more, speak God’s word into their ears whether they seem to be listening or not will be enough.

 

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Something I struggle with and sense that many other dads struggle with as well is finding that time during our day to spend with each child.  It is tough, but something we must work hard to do.  I am still trying to work through that issue.  What I have found is taking the time whenever possible to ask them questions and listen to their answers.  This usually occurs in the strangest places.  In the car, working in the flower beds, mowing the yard, setting on our bed “shooting the breeze “, at my office on the days I take one of the kids with me and many other opportunities.  Sometimes you have several minutes to an hour of opportunity for a healthy discussion and other times is may only be a few minutes….in either case the time is invaluable.  As I now have four teenagers, one preteen, two nearly to the preteen stage, two toddlers, and a baby, I find each moment I can get with them is precious time.  It seems like only yesterday my oldest was trying to walk and now she has her driving permit and I am sweating this driving thing out with her.  With her I have interesting conversation while I am driving with her.  My others we catch a moment anytime we can.  If I am going to the store I will select one of the kids to take with me alone.  This way they have my undivided attention.  I will ask them what they have been doing, thinking about, books they are reading, their friends, etc.  You might ask what the  kids think about only one getting to go with dad?  Well, they each have to understand that I am only one daddy and each of the kids must wait their turn.  This works well with them because each of them know their turn is coming.  I did not say it was a perfect system, but for now it is an efficient one.

For sometime now I have also been trying to figure a way to slow down our lives enough to actually eat one meal a day as a family….altogether.  To this day it is still in the works, but as long as we keep working on it we will figure it out…we might have to make it one time per week to start with, but we are going to work it out.

Guys, these are just a few suggestions from my experiences.  Each day my goal is to improve on what I can and try not to stress out over what I cannot improve on today.  You have different schedules and different jobs from me possibly, but God wants our attention and He wants us to give our boys the attention they deserve.  These sons of ours are waiting for our instructions.  Read the bible to them daily…quote scripture to them as much as possible.  This is the type of instructions our boys need.  Tell them how your God is a providential God with a plan for their lives.  Teach them that His plan for them is the greatest plan they could ever imagine.  Express to them that God is all knowing, all powerful, all loving merciful, judging, forgiving, and gracious.  You might tell them stories about how the Israelites left Egypt for the promised land and found themselves facing the Red Sea to the front, Pharaoh’s army behind and desert mountains on the sides.  With their backs to wall so to speak God provided the way out and it was the most unlikely answer to their prayers.  You can tell them stories of God’s providential power in your own lives or the lives of family or people you know.  Contrary to popular belief these kids do not have to rebel if we will instruct them properly now.  Stories about how God provided for George Mueller’s orphanages in England…he never ask a person for anything.  George Mueller always asked God for the provision as He willed and God always without fail provided.  These are the kinds of stories and instruction these guys are looking for.  As my wife and I strive to instruct our children I hope you will pray for success in that and our prayer will be that your family is blessed with success as you strive to instruct your children, especially those boys.  Think of that young lady that God has planned for your son…she would like a young man that has been properly instructed rather than someone with no direction and no way to get direction.

“I advise you. my son, in whatever you read, and most of all in reading the Bible, to remember that it is for the purpose of making you wiser and more virtuus.”

-John Quincy Adams

Awaiting Instruction is our opportunity as dads to give it to our boys straight in the truth of God’s Holy Word.

-Scott Bailey (c) 2007

 

 

 

 

 

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2 Responses to “-Waiting Instruction…Boys!”

  1. lacigurl said

    From a mother’s lips – Perfection!

    What sage advice.

    I am a single mother trying to be both father and mother to my child.

    I am taking notes.

    Thank You for this…

    LACI:)

  2. qbaileys said

    Thank you very much for the kind comments. I wanted to let you know about my wife’s site that also will have great articles about raising kids. You can visit at http://www.LivingStones4Moms.com.
    I pray all the best for you and your kids.
    Scott

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