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Parents Acting Like Teenagers!

Posted by Scott on November 21, 2007

Dr. Mohler’s Blog

“Freak Dancing” — When Parents Advocate Misbehavior

The Wall Street Journal is out with one of the those eye-opening stories that defies common moral sense. It seems that Jason Ceyanes, the 35-year-old superintendent of schools in Argyle, Texas, decided to crack down on sexually-suggestive dancing at the local high school. But, when the superintendent banned “freak dancing,” he got into trouble with some of Argyle’s parents.

Here is how The Wall Street Journal introduced its account of the controversy:

A new resolve by school officials in this booming Dallas suburb to crack down on sexually suggestive dancing — and skimpy clothing — has sparked a rancorous debate over what boundaries should be set for teenagers’ self-expression. Argyle joins a long list of other schools around the country that have banned the hip-hop inspired dancing known as “grinding” or “freak dancing.”

But in Argyle, a once-sleepy farming community strained by explosive growth from an influx of well-to-do suburbanites, the controversy has gotten vicious. Some parents blame the newly installed school superintendent, Jason Ceyanes, 35, for ruining their children’s October homecoming dance by enforcing a strict dress code and making provocative dancing off-limits. Disgusted, a lot of kids left, and the dance ended early.

Mr. Ceyanes says he fears current cleavage-baring dress styles combined with sexually charged dancing could lead to an unsafe environment for students.

“This is not just shaking your booty,” he said. “This is pelvis-to-pelvis physical contact in the private areas…and then moving around.”

“Freak dancing” is well known throughout the nation, and it involves what can only be described as “sexually charged” physical contact and movement. But many of the kids in Argyle were “disgusted” that freak dancing was banned at the homecoming dance, so they left. That might be fairly easy to understand. After all, adolescents are expected to exhibit adolescent patterns of misbehavior. What makes this story so interesting is that so many parents responded by joining their adolescents in immature response. In fact, their protest of the superintendent’s policy is shocking.

As the paper explained, “Many parents support Mr. Ceyanes’s actions. But another vocal faction has been harshly critical of the new superintendent, creating a deep rift in the community. These parents defend the children of Argyle as ‘good kids,’ and say they should be trusted to dance and dress the way they want.”

Here is one of the moral hallmarks of our confused age. Parents defy authority and propriety and justify the misbehavior of their own children while calling them “good kids.” In this case, they argue that these “good kids” should be allowed “to dance and dress the way they want” — even if that means sexually suggestive dress and sexually charged dancing.

Mr. Ceyanes held a public meeting for parents and played a video of freak dancing. “I cannot imagine that there is a father in this room who could watch this video and be all right with a young man dancing with his daughter in that fashion,” he told the parents.

This is further evidence of a trend long in coming. Fashion styles for adult women now mimic those of adolescent girls. Why? So many moms want to act like teenagers and dress as provocatively as their offspring. Far too many parents want to act like their teenagers’ friends and peers, not like parents. Parents, after all, are expected to act like adults, and this is a society that depreciates adulthood and valorizes adolescence.

When a story like this makes the front page of The Wall Street Journal, something significant has shifted on the moral landscape. When parents demand that their “good kids” be allowed to freak dance at school events, the real story shifts from the kids to the parents.

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The Wall Street Journal also features this video coverage of the story [go here].  We discussed this issue on Tuesday’s edition of The Albert Mohler Program [listen here].

-Scott Bailey 2007

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-From A Dad: Saving the Boys! Proverbs 2:1-11

Posted by Scott on October 20, 2007

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  To save our boys we need to give them excellent role models to immolate.  Once they are given the proper role models they will then know how to have a good marriage and how to be a good father.  These are the fathers of tomorrow we are raising, guys.  As a dad I need to be a strong biblical role model for them.  My boys need to see me as their dad reading his bible, praying, serious at times, laughing at other times, helping other people, serving, living according to the bible, doing what is right even if it is a hard choice, and so on.  I deal with speed, stops signs, seat belts and red lights all the time when the kids are in the car with me….this is an area I am working on….ha…ha…ha!

“My son, if you accept my words and store up my commands within you, turning your ear to wisdom and applying your heart to understanding and if you call out for insight and cry aloud for understanding and if you look for it as for silver and search for it as for hidden treasure, then you will understand the fear of the Lord and find the knowledge of God.”           -Proverbs 2:1-5 NIV

We as dads have such a short time with these boys.  To bring them up to be strong respectable men.  My oldest son is 14 years old.  He thinks himself to be a man and ready to make manly decisions.  As much as I would like to think he is ready I know he is not.  So, with the 4 years I have left I have alot of training sessions to work on with him.  As his dad I must instruct him in the ways of the Lord even if he does not seem to listen.  I cannot beat it into him, but God’s word must be presented to him every chance God gives me.  I found the other day five goals to saving our boys by Steve Farrar as their father it is my job to model for them the importance of:

*knowing and obeying Jesus Christ

*knowig and displaying godly character

*knowing and love my wife

*knowing and loving my children

*knowing my gifts and abilities, so I can work hard and effectively in an area of strength, rather than weakness and contribute effectively to the lives of others and have a little fun at the same time.

“For the Lord gives wisdom, and from his mouth come knowledge and understanding.”           -Proverbs 2:6 NIV

If I as these boys dad will be faithful to God’s word and fill my boys up on His word I can rest assured it will not return void when they are adults and have families.  He guards the path of the righteous and protects the trail of those faithful to Him.  Our boys need to hear this often.  We need to remind these boys of God’s divine hand upon their lives and that He is working His plan in their lives.  For most boys now days they never hear that God even cares for them much less that He has a plan for their lives.  Proverbs 2:10 tells us that “wisdom will enter your heart and knowledge will be pleasant to your soul.”  It is this “pleasantness in God” that us dads need to desire for our boys to understand and experience.  If they can have a deep loving relationship with Christ early on, they will have a fighting chance as a successful father and husband in their adult years.  Without the Lord in the very center of their being they have no chance.  Success is defined here as raising upstanding kids and staying married to the same gal for all their lives….does not matter about the money, homes, cars, or retirement accounts.  All that matters is that when we enter heaven and our sons and daughters enter heaven God can say of us “Well done my good and faithful servant, enter the Kingdom of Heaven.”  If that is not our goal for ourselves and our kids, then what other goal could we have?

-Scott Bailey (c) 2007

 

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